Those of us who have experienced the loss of a baby, be it from miscarriage, stillbirth or infant loss, don't really need a day to remember. Every day is a day of remembrance for us, whether the grief is fresh or decades old.

Some of us choose to live out loud with our grief, talking about our children and experiences to help others deal with their own grief and pain. Some of us choose to grieve quietly and inwardly. Neither is right and neither is wrong. I've said it over and over again, grief has no timeline and no rule book. The only rule is that you have to go THROUGH it, not AROUND it.

In September of 2006, the House of Representatives voted to pass House Resolution #222 to declare that October 15 is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day.

This is the day that the nation as a whole takes time to remember our babies, to remember the million babies each year that parents have to say goodbye to. If you've not experienced the loss of a pregnancy or infant, this is a day to pause and remember your friends and family who have experienced a loss.

Band Back Together wants to honor and remember your babies.


On October 15, we will have a post that will be continuously updated with your babies you want to remember. Entries will look like this:

Charlie: Jana's son born May 21, 2003 and died June 14, 2003 from late-onset Group B Strep.


To be included in that post, please send the following to jana@bandbacktogether.com with the subject OCTOBER 15.

  • Baby's name (or names for twins, triplets or multiple losses)

  • Dates and the cause of death (miscarriage, stillbirth, prematurity, heart defect, group b strep, etc.)

  • URL to your blog or a post about your baby(ies)

  • Your first name if you want it included


We wish none of you had to remember your babies that aren't with you, but since we don't have the power to stop loss from happening, we choose to remember them.
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